If you’re planning a night out, you may be wondering what exactly you should do if you want to be sure to meet someone new, a potential casual dating partner.
That’s okay, it’s something that makes most people nervous! While dating apps have taken over the world, you still have great chances of finding a date on a night out. Before you spend your night chatting on a hookup site like SPdate, then consider heading out to the club instead after you’ve read our tips. Here’s our guide to meeting someone new, or just hooking up with friends, in the club and hooking up.
What to do to meet someone
There are so many options that are always open to you. Here are just a few:
1. Look around. You may think that everyone is looking at each other, or looking to hook up, but just as many people are looking for something completely different. Don’t give up just because you don’t see someone to talk to right away, because you never know what you’ll discover.
Go around and look for someone interesting, try to get closer to them. Look for those that seem interested in talking, or who are at the club alone, or maybe a group of friends. Sometimes just starting a conversation can do the trick!
2. Ask someone to dance If you’re looking to talk to a specific person, or maybe just introduce yourself, dancing is a great way to do so! Dance together.
How to keep the conversation going
Before you even think about meeting someone, you need to find a seat that’s not too hot or too cold. You don’t want to look like you’re sweating from your forehead (after all you are in a club).
The idea is to talk to as many people as possible to get a good conversation going. For this you’ll need to have a lot of energy. You can’t get nervous when you’re new to the club scene so you have to pretend that you’re already comfortable with the environment.
If you are lucky, you will be able to approach somebody attractive or you will at least get a chance to chat to the bartender or the bouncer. They will be the ones who can tell you if there are any single guys and girls there and that’s where you can start a conversation. At that point, you might have to get lucky with some sweet talk.
How to meet and chat with people
Get a drink or some snacks and set up at a table in the middle of the club at a table.
Pick a group activity like dancing, line-dancing or game playing to get everyone to mingling.
Talk to strangers. Ask them to join in on a game or activity and watch for those with similar interests.
Look for a cute guy or girl with a nice smile or a party girl.
Hug a few people as you walk through the club.
Talk with people who seem friendly or interested in talking.
Have someone watch your stuff as you dance.
Do what the group is doing and chat with anyone you like.
Do what you usually do when you’re at a club and watch everyone. Sometimes people get chatty when you start to just watch.
Mix and mingle.
Do something. Anything. Don’t sit in one place or you’ll probably get ignored. Do not ignore people.
How to ensure you are not being too forward
If you’ve ever been to a club or an event and come across a guy who caught your eye but then realized he is on the market, the embarrassment might have prompted you to swipe right fast so he can swipe left.
We have some thoughts on this: remember you’re out with your friends and in a social environment. For people in long distance relationships (L.D.s) or just living in different cities, this is very hard for you to do in person.
If you get too caught up on trying to impress someone you come across and you come off as being too forward, this can mean an uncomfortable silence that can last for the rest of the night.
Instead, as we’ve talked about before, open yourself up and be vulnerable and ask them if they want to chat. More often than not, they will.
How to find the right person at the right moment
When you’re in a club, you have to do a lot of work. One good method is to meet with your friends, talk and gossip, make good plans.
But when you find the right person for the moment, you have to be able to send a strong signal to your friend.
One way to do this is to introduce your friend to a person you like, or a friend of a friend, or anyone you know. This is something you can do after you meet, with a little planning on how you approach the situation.
How to be attractive
Of course, you have to approach girls in the club. So the best way is to look good. You can’t just wear a T-shirt and a pair of jeans. It should be stylish, in good shape, and not so low cut. You also have to smell good. In the club, you have to be able to stand out.
When looking to meet someone in the club, you need to make sure that you’re confident, comfortable, and looking your best. Most of all, you need to go out and try to meet someone.
You never know what amazing stories you’re going to get and what amazing people you’re going to meet. Have fun, play it safe, and go out and meet someone!